Failure isn’t fun
Failure is a drag, a bummer, an emotional kick in the gut. It can leave you feeling vulnerable and embarrassed, and you will almost certainly encounter it at some point in your life.
But failure doesn’t mean you’re stupid or worthless. Failure means you took a calculated risk, invested time and effort into something, and came up short. That’s all.
The failure of an important project or task can bring anyone down. I used to approach each creative project as if it was destined to be a timeless masterpiece. When the result didn’t turn out as good as I had hoped, I would sink into despair over my apparent lack of talent and vow to never leave the house again. It took years for me to realize that making myself feel bad got me nowhere.
So if you fail, you can mourn for a little while, but don’t get comfortable in the sadness. If you’re truly eager to improve, you’ll need to get back up and find out what went wrong.